Yesterday me and my sister went to watch the movie "about time" wow if you love romance, comedy, and something just to distract the mind this movie is perfect for you.
Without giving much away its basically about a father ( played by Bill Nighy- that funny singer dude from love actually) who tells his son that their family secret is that they can time travel. Now many times the men have used it for money, fame, his father particularly to get through every well written novel he can (i.e Ermest Hemmingway etc) ...
However, his son decides that he wants to use it to find a girlfriend. He see's "Mary(Rachel McAdams) and from that day he does everything in his power to do everything right in their relationship( ie. the first time they had sex, (rewind) haha, the way he proposes (rewind-retake), the best man speech( rewind-rechoose)....no tricks to make her fall in love with him, just to get every moment "perfect enough" for her. Ah the way he see's her, cherishes her, fights for her, values her is what every man on earth should do if he is REALLY in love with you.
The relationship with his dad is incredible. What an amazing father. So much love for his son. So much humor and compassion imprinted within him...so much support. This guy is a lucky son and boyfriend. At the end, not to give much away his father and him time travel back to the beach when Bill Nighy takes his son( much younger) to the beach, a memory they have previously shared together. Now i usually never cry in movie, but what a trigger.
I lost my dad four years ago and he never showed any love towards me. A lot of rejection involved and unsaid words. My boyfriend who i thought i was going to spend the rest of my life with broke up with me (over watsapp i might add) on sunday and wow i fought and felt about him how this guy feels about this girl......but unfortunately you cant force someone to love you the way you love him....i was sobbing....IF ONLY i could go back in time, act differently, say or not say things at all in some petty situations, try and force a relationship with my dad......BUT......I CANT.
The moral of the STORY IS....."there are great limits to what time travel can achieve, and it can be dangerous too. About Time is a comedy about love and time travel, which discovers that, in the end, making the most of life may not need time travel at all."
I cant go back in time and make my father love me, or make sure that each moment between me and the love of life was perfect enough to end in a fairytale, but after that great loss ( same as in the movie that the guy experiences after he time travels and lives each day twice, to really appreciate it the seond time, i can move forward, i dont have that second chance, i cant take moments for granted yesterday, today, tomorrow.......but i can pay attention, listen to the songs of the birds, smell the flowers, embrace the oxygen and that im still alive. you cant go back and change things, but you can decide TODAY- that things are about to change. mistakes are often our best friends, now i choose them to be my greatest teacher.